Kids Zone Parent Pledge
Please read:
I pledge to be on time or early when dropping off my child for a practice
or game. I understand that it is embarrassing for my child to be late to
a game or practice and that I am putting him/her at physical risk by not
providing adequate time for warm up. I understand the importance of picking
up my child on time for all games and practices. This shows respect for
the coach, who has other time commitments, and it tells my child that he
or she is my top priority.
- I understand that the top three reasons kids play sports are to
have fun, make new friends and learn new skills. I understand that the
game is for the kids, and that I will encourage my child to have fun
and keep sport in its proper perspective. I understand that athletes
do their best when they are emotionally healthy, so I will be positive
and supportive.
- I will redefine what it is to be a "Winner" in my conversations
with my child. A Winner is someone who makes maximum effort, continues
to learn and improve, and does not let mistakes, or fear of making mistakes,
stop them. I understand that mistakes are an inevitable part of any
game and that people learn from their mistakes. I understand that all
children are born with different abilities and that the true measure
is not how my child compares to others but how he/she is doing in comparison
to his/her best self.
- I will "Honor the Game." I understand the importance of setting
a good example of sportsmanship to my child. No matter what others may
do, I will show respect for all involved in the game including coaches,
players, opponents, opposing fans, and referees. I understand that officials,
coaches, and players make mistakes. If the referee makes a "questionable"
call, I will continue to respect the individual and be silent!
- I understand that games can be exciting times for my child who is
trying to deal with the fast-paced action of the game, respond to opponents,
referees, teammates and listen to coaches. I will not add confusion
by yelling out instructions. During the game, I will limit my comments
to encouraging my child and other players for both teams.
- I will not make negative comments about the game, coaches, referees
or teammates in my child's presence. I understand that this plants a
seed, which can negatively influence my child's motivation and overall
experience.
I agree to honor the AYSO Parent Pledge
in my words and actions.
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Tools For Parents
The following ideas may be helpful for being an AYSO supportive
parent.
Conversations before the games:
- Tell your child you love him/her regardless of the outcome.
- Tell him or her "Go for it, give it your best shot and have fun!"
During the game:
- Understand that kids are over-stimulated during games. The coach
is yelling instructions, opponents and teammates are talking, the crowd
is cheering, and the referee is blowing the whistle. To a youth sports
participant the atmosphere is much like that of a fighter pilot with
enemy jets racing all around. Do not yell instructions to your child
during the game, since it only adds to the confusion. Sometimes the
best thing you can do as a parent is to be quiet.
- Cheer and acknowledge good plays by both teams.
After the game:
- Thank the officials for doing a difficult job.
- Thank the coaches for their efforts. Understand that after a difficult
loss is not a good time to question a coach.
- Thank your opponents for a good game.
- Congratulate your child and his or her teammates for their effort.
- Compliment individual players on good plays they made in the game.
During the car ride home:
- Point out a good play your child made during the game.
- Avoid criticizing or correcting mistakes.
- Ask open-ended questions about how the game was played rather than
how many points were scored. Examples of open-ended questions that might
apply:
- "Did you have fun?"
- "Did you give it your best effort?"
- "What did you learn from the game?"
- "What was the best play you made and how did it feel?"
- " Did you bounce back from your mistakes?"
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